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Spring Cleaning and The Way of Individuation

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This is the perfect time of year to do some spring cleaning – put those Feng Shui recommendations into practise. In an earlier post I wrote about how I changed my room around to optimally benefit from the energies. I have to admit, it felt a bit weird when I moved all of my books into my wardrobe to ensure that my educational corner benefited  as I am not terribly into fashion (if this sounds odd – read my posts on Feng Shui and the bedroom). Like any ‘normal’ person I used to keep clothes in my wardrobe (lol). So, last week I decided it was time to move my books again and go through them to ensure that I wasn’t holding on books that I would never read or disliked etc.  When I was finished I had 3 bags ready to be taken to the charity shop.
I had a period when I was terribly into psychology and read everything I could get hold of including a brilliant but dense book called “The Way of Individuation: The indispensable key to understanding Jungian psychology” written by Jolande Jacobi. It’s one of those that I never managed to get through, not surprisingly (Zzz).  As I was holding the it, a page opened up and I read: “But if one has no proper persona, one strikes other people as vague and vacillating, and no one knows what to make of such an individual.” Jung writes: “
One could say, with a little exaggeration, that the persona is that which in reality one is not, but which oneself as well as others think one is. “If the persona is lacking, one has no protecting “face” and is exposed to the world with all one’s  moods like a child.” So, the person you think you are becomes your reality i.e. you become the person you think yourself into being. If you have no reference point to who you are, that you can pin your ideas on, you become defense less and respond to everyone elses ideas/projections on who they think you are. A constantly pleasing and ever-changing personality that comes across as vague when confronted. A well-balanced or rounded “face” becomes a protective boundary that acts as a persona between you and society, a basic survival strategy. When do we develop  protective boundaries? Personally, I think it is a lifelong process but the majority of the work happens as we step into adolescence. Who I am? What do I want?

It’s in the beginning of the maturation process that signs of narcolepsy starts to appear. How does narcolepsy affect the sense of self during this period of uncertainty and development?

When I turned thirteen, unknowingly, symptoms of narcolepsy started to become more common and it started to affect my ability to study and stay awake in class.. I don’t remember much apart from my dreams/night terrors and my struggles to stay awake in class and at family functions. I remember spending hours painting in the art department, it was my creative and emotional outlet. Did my personal development as an adult suffer? Most definitely! There seemed to be an exterior world that I didn’t always comprehend, as if there was a veil separating me from them and as I grew older the veil grew thicker. I became introvert and shy.

In my early twenties, my friends nicknamed me mysterious. I always thought it was a bit strange because, without realising, that was what I had become; a mystery to myself.


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March 31, 2011 at 2:52 pm

Feng Shui Tips to Turn Your Bedroom Into a Retreat – sleep – Health.com

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Feng Shui Tips to Turn Your Bedroom Into a Retreat – sleep – Health.com.

In November, 2010, I wrote about how to Feng Shui your bedroom. Health.com has a small slide-show with nice images and some basic tips how to turn your bedroom into a haven.

I have written the following posts in the past on how to Feng Shui your bedroom: Feng Shui for Better Deeper Sleep! , Feng Shui – Is your Bed Positioned facing the right direction? and Last Feng Shui Post on the Bedroom – Promise!

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January 8, 2011 at 11:06 pm

Last Feng Shui Post on the Bedroom – Promise!

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It’s easy to “map” your bedroom according to Feng Shui principles so you create harmony in the bedroom.

1.     First, draw a roughly square outline of your bedroom on a piece of paper. The wall that has the primary entrance to your room in it should be the lower line of the square.

2.     Divide the square into nine equal squares, three rows of 3 squares each.

3.     Start with the lowest row of squares that describes the areas when you first walk into your bedroom. The far left corner of the room when you first enter is the area of Knowledge. The centre square relates to Career, and the right-hand square is Helpful People/Travel.

4.     Now look at the central row of squares that describes the middle of your bedroom. The far left square relates to Family/Health. The central square is the Tao, or Centre, and the right-hand square is Creativity/Children.

5.     Lastly, look at the top row of squares. The far left square relates to Wealth, the central square to Fame/Reputation, and the far right square to Relationships/Romance.

Here’s the layout:

Wealth Fame/Reputation Relationships/Romance
Family/Health Tao/Centre Creativity/Children
Knowledge Career Helpful People/Travel

Knowledge: bookcase, books, tools for self-development.

Career: mirror or water-related items. Images to support your career goals.

Helpful People/Travel: pictures of your helpers.

Family/Health: family photos, heirlooms, plants.

Creativity/Children: art supplies, artwork, and computer.

Wealth: money, jewellery, fish, fountains, anything red, purple or gold.

Fame/Reputation: candles, awards, plants, anything red, orange or purple.

Relationships/Romance: round or oval mirrors, anything pink, pictures of loved ones, paired objects 2 roses

I have my bed in the Helpful People/Travel area, Door in the Career area and Wardrobe in the Knowledge area. You are supposed to put pictures of your helpers in the Helpful People/Travel area. Who are they? Is it like my Family, friends or spiritual beings/God they mean? Ah, at the moment I have a blue angel that a friend left behind. That must be good.

My career area is just a door – how am I going to be able to fit a water feature here?  Images of my career goals – need to find some. If I start to nurture this area perhaps my work circumstances will shift quickly?

In my knowledge area I have a malfunctioning wardrobe. I am just about to empty it out. As lovely as it is – it’s totally impractical. I could turn it into a bookshelf for my books etc. But what do I do with my bookshelf. Aha, I could put my clothes on my Bookshelf. Is this a good idea? Probably not;) ha! ha!

Next area is the Family and Health. I have a table here, but could just about move a photo of my brother to the table. If I put plants here, they will die! I could try a cactus but they are supposed to be bad Feng Shui too. No wonder Asian homes are so minimalist!

What good luck, I already keep my easel in the Creativity/Children area!

I have a bookshelf in the wealth area. The books will be moved into the wardrobe (ha-ha) and I think I’ll move my clothes into this area. I am not planning on getting any fish or water feature but I do have a large red fan that I could put here.

My fame and Reputation area is covered in plants; it is also where my patio doors to the garden are located. I also have a few candles there – how appropriate!

Now, the relationship romance area ha-ha… It explains a lot…I keep my garden tools and wellies in this position. No wonder… I have no luck in this area of my life! Wait a minute; a pair of wellies must count as a paired object! Perhaps I could make more of an effort and get 2 roses? There is a Feng Shui ritual that consists of placing 2 roses for three days in the relationship area of your bedroom, get 2 new ones for another 3 days, then 2 new ones for yet another 3 days. 9 days in total. Never keep wilting flowers here. Now your love life is supposed to blossom. I have never tried it but it sounds cute.

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October 23, 2010 at 5:24 pm

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Feng Shui – Is your Bed Positioned facing the right direction?

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I think I might be going a bit Feng shui mad at the moment but I have just found this article on what direction to position your bed in order to maximise the chi. Fascinating stuff ! I did not use to believe that the bedroom environment was particularly important.Well, I didn’t pay any particular attention to my bedroom. After graduating at university (I surprised even my neurologist – but I am stubborn and once I have made up my mind to do something I will succeed), I spent 6 months painting and living in a small room. It wasn’t the brightest idea because of all the toxins and my overall health suffered. I believe that Feng shui is based on common sense. In most cases there is a natural explanation to why it ‘s recommended to do this and to do that.

Depending on which direction you position the bed, you will have various other advantages through Feng Shui. For example, you can place your bed either facing East, South East, West, North West or South West for best results.

West :When you face your bed west, you create the best conditions for a good night’s sleep. West is contentment. However contentment can also bring with it laziness and low motivation, so starting a new career while your bed is facing this direction might not be the best idea. This is ideal for people who already have a good career going.

East: Eastern positioning of your bed will make you feel that every day is a new day indeed. If you are young, just starting out, this is the perfect way to sleep. This brings out in any person feelings of ambition and growth and it easily promotes career expansion.

South East: This is for people who have trouble communicating as it promotes good communication, an enhanced creativity and a rather active life.

South West: If you are rather restless, facing your bed the South West direction will calm you down and make you feel at peace with all there is. You will also have a feeling of being more settled in your life and relationship.

What you should avoid instead is placing your sleeping quarters in bad positions for Feng Shui, such as North, North East and South.

North: North can increase various sleep disorders such as insomnia and make you rather lethargic in your life. This position is often called the ‘death position’. If you are an older person, such as a senior citizen, this position might be good for you as it really promotes a calmness and tranquility that you can mostly benefit from.

North East: This can easily give nightmares to a person and make one feel at edge at all times. It brings out strong emotions.

South: South is really bad for sleep as the energy surrounding it is rather high. If you find yourself in many heated arguments in your relationship, one way to minimize those is to change the direction of your sleeping quarters.

Reference: Feng Shui Tips for Your Bedroom for a Positive Chi

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October 23, 2010 at 12:15 pm

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Feng Shui for Better Deeper Sleep!

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What place could be more important for someone with a sleeping disorder than the bed? In a good Feng shui bedroom, every item will reflect the clear intent for love, healing and relaxation. Those who follow Feng shui use the techniques to improve aspects of prosperity, health and wealth because it specifically invites harmony and balance to these areas of life. I invite more harmony and balance to my sleep at night, please!

1. Clean up all your clutter and organise your things. Throw away clothes and objects you will never use again and items that are broken. If you been meaning to mend a pile of clothes, do it now or throw away! Clean your bedroom and organise your things!

2. Your bedroom should be a soothing, calming, warm colour. The Skin-colour range is normally recommended, ranging from chocolate-mocha brown to warm beige.

3. Move all your electrical equipment to another room. TV’s, computers or exercise equipment destroy the good energy.

4. Open the windows often to air the bedroom to lose stale energy. Get at good quality air-purifier to ensure the air is fresh  and loaded with oxygen.

5. Plants are not good Feng shui! Only place plants in the bedroom if your room is large and you can locate them far from the bed.

6. Use different types of  lighting levels in your bedroom or use a dimmer switch. Good, appropriate lighting is very important, as is one of the strongest manifestation of energy. Candles are the best Feng shui bedroom lighting, but be sure to buy candles with no toxins.

7. Images carry  powerful Feng shui so choose images carefully for your bedroom. Best Feng shui advice for the bedroom art is to choose images that you want to see happening in your life. Earlier this week I blogged about vision boards,

Now the Bed:

1. It’s important to have a bed that is decent, clean and well-balanced. Solid frame, good mattress and sheets made from natural materials.

2. The bed needs to be approachable from both sides. If you can only approach it from one side you cut off your energy. , At night, your body is busy doing intense work regenerating itself and is looking to use all the energy it can, to improve your health. When the flow of energy to your bed is restricted, your body does not receive the optimum help it needs.

3. Try to have two bedside tables, one on each side.

4. Avoid placing your bed in direct line with a door. Not just the door, patio doors and wardrobe doors too. As these portals will pull energy from you.

8. Keep all the bedroom doors closed at night, be it the closet doors, the en-suite bathroom door or the bedroom door. This will allow for the best and most nourishing flow of energy to strengthen health.

9. Do not have a mirror facing the bed. You do not want it to be reflecting your bed. It will sap your energy while you sleep.

10. Do not have anything hanging from your ceiling above your bed. No beams, ceiling fan, chandelier, wind chimes or bells!

11. Now, look around for sharp angles in your bedroom. Neutralise all sharp energy pointing at your bed by moving furniture slightly or cover them with cloth or a room divider.

12. Avoid placing your bed under a window. You need a good headboard and a solid wall behind your bed. The same here as with the mirror, your energy tends to get weaker over a long period if you sleep under a window as the body does not have any protection nor support.

13. Do not place your bed under a sloped ceiling. It makes sense to avoid sloped ceilings as they restrict the flow of your energy. Also, It might fall down on you while you sleep. As nighttime is the only time when your body can do the deep work of regenerating itself, sleeping under a sloped ceiling restricts this work, thus one’s health may suffer. Sleeping in a bed under a sloped ceiling can also contribute to emotional instability and low energy.

Good Luck and Sleep Well!

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    October 19, 2010 at 3:51 pm

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